The French philosopher Alain de Botton believes that we should never put our best foot forward when we first start dating someone. This is the convention, yes, but what it does is set up both parties for unrealistic expectations and disappointments. He suggests that first dates begin with the question: “How are you crazy?”
Basically, let’s cut ahead. What is it that you think I will find strange? What are your quirks? What is it you think I won’t be able to live with because no one else could?
While it is practical advice, instead of asking others, I thought to ask myself.